“Men do not naturally, not love. They learn not to…” Matt Bomer as Felix Turner, The Normal Heart
Entitlement and Gender Discourse Inclusion
I wasn’t going to write about Santa Barbara because I can’t always keep up in this blog with world events, but when I saw that people were still discussing it I figured I’d respond. More than that, I really had some things to say that I’m not hearing discussed. But before I get started, I should say why I’m writing this article. It has to do with a couple of things my readers know I’m passionate about. First, I’m not a fan of the way we talk about gender. Counter to popular opinion, gender is not solely women’s space. Many of the activists that were vocal about this issue discuss it as if gender and gendered violence is exclusively a woman’s issue…and the entitlement and arrogance of that has been, at times, problematic (I discuss this later in ways that’ll make your head spin). Men also accept this assumption and are often castigated for not getting involved in gender discussions, or “mansplaining” when they do–but men need to get involved with gendered discourses and make our own space because we, too, are gendered beings. Continue Reading!